Inblognito: Blogging Undercover

Now this should be interesting… I’ve had a glass of wine and there is a certain phrase I’m going to try and avoid because I’m getting a ton of spam comments already without inviting it. Are you all with me on the title? If not… then lets just say I’m looking for a little help on one particular aspect of my life. Via teh interwebs. A cure for the lonely if you will. Now get your mind out of the gutter and I think we’ll all be clear, more or less -I am inviting long term prospects, the longest term if I could have exactly what I want.

So I wrote a few words about myself (with a little help from my work buddy actually, who harassed me for months to do this) and put them out there. There has been a ton of crap in response. More crap than said spam here in fact. But there have been a few nice ones too. There are now two who are particularly nice. We’ve got a little connection thing going on, a bit of email back and forth. But now I’m stuck. What next? One in particular, who I’ve emailed nearly every day, just keeps emailing… and emailing… and emailing. But what next? And who suggests what? I’m freaked out at the thought of meeting someone, especially when they don’t know what I look like. I don’t have a photo there, although it would probably weed out a lot of that crap before it gets to my inbox. But there’s also a good chance it will create a drought. Let’s talk about these two separately, that might be easier.

Number 1 is the one I’ve been emailing for weeks now. I know what he looks like (not bad!) and he may know what I look like (I put another ‘thing’ up elsewhere as an experiment – nowhere near as good response rate, but it is a lesser known place. I have also seen him there). I think we’re both in the same position, shy, not so hot on the social skills thing when placed in an awkward, first meeting situation. Hopefully better once we get to know people.

So, the question is, what do I do? Do I send him my picture and say ‘oh, by the way, this is who you’ve been chatting to all this time?’ What if that scares him off?! Or worse, what if he wants to meet? I’d like to lose a thousand more pounds first. Well, maybe 20 (7.5 down since the New Year!). But that could be a few months away yet… I think I need the other person to initiate anything in this area. But if he is the same as me, is he waiting for me to go first? I just don’t know!

Number 2 is very very young. Ok, maybe only 3 years younger than me, but remember the lawyer? 11 years older, so it would be the complete opposite in maturity years (though really, how mature was the lawyer?!). So, he’s young… just started studying part time, which I’m not so keen on signing up for. Been there, done that myself for the past 10 years.  But he is nice.

Nice looking? I don’t know. Neither of us has seen pictures yet. But I do have a cell number, which I haven’t used because I hate text messaging and also because what if it leads to a request to meet?! He is a tad more forward at least. I guess I don’t want to take anything too much further without seeing a face. Just as I might scare him off, he may scare me off! Which I mean in the nicest possible way of course. It’s not about looks, but I’m fairly intuitive and will be able to tell both if I am attracted to him and if he is the type to be attracted to me.

I’m thinking the best option (of all the bad options) may be to quietly upload a photo and just see if they notice. And see if the emails die off or if we carry on and get through that hurdle. What do you think?